The Slow Dating Revolution (2 min read)

Embrace Mother Nature's Plan

Nature has a unique way of guiding us in finding the right match. Sometimes, we're drawn to people who might not feel the same about us, and that's okay. It's all part of Mother Nature's design. If someone isn't interested, remember—it's not your fault. Understanding and accepting this natural selection allows you to let go of personal blame and stress. This mindset shift allows you to approach dating with confidence and ease. 

The Decision to Connect

You both decide to spend time together in real life, not just online. This decision marks the beginning of a journey to know each other honestly. Investing time and energy into exploring a deeper connection and moving beyond surface-level interactions is a conscious choice.

The Evaluation Phase

In this stage, you see more of each other and observe how the other acts when tired, bored, angry, sad, and frustrated. This period is crucial for understanding each other's true selves. You integrate each other into your lives, seeing how well you get along with each other's friends and family. During this time, you refrain from becoming fully sexual, waiting until you are an official couple.

 Recognize Red Flags

As you get to know someone, it's crucial to be aware of signs that they may not be ready for a committed relationship. Are they consumed with work, sports, or friendships, or are they dealing with personal issues that consume all their attention? Watch out for traits that suggest they may not be a good partner, such as being overly angry, critical, bossy, insecure, or controlling. Recognizing these red flags early on can help you make informed decisions about the relationship's future.

Questions to Ask Yourself

As you get to know someone new, ask yourself key questions: Do I like who I am with them? Do I feel comfortable sharing more about myself? Do I feel respected? Do they ask me many questions about myself and seem interested in my answers? Do they discuss a future with me? Can I be authentic with them? Do they respond to my feelings with kindness and caring so that solid emotional bonds can form?

The Decision Point

Once you've assessed your connection, it's time to decide whether to commit as an official couple. If you both agree, that's fantastic! If not, it's okay to part ways and explore new possibilities. This decision is crucial for building a robust and fulfilling relationship based on mutual understanding and compatibility.